20 Thoughtful Valentines Day Gift Ideas for New Mums

It's that time of year again! Valentines Day is just around the corner and if you're anything like me you're frantically trying to think of something beautiful and unique to show that special someone how much they mean to you. Once you enter that crazy period that is parenthood, it is incredibly easy to turn all of your attention to your kids and babies and forget to nurture your relationship with your partner, especially when you're so time poor and sleep deprived!

For any one who is about to have a baby or has just had a baby, life is so busy and centered around baby, and I am sure Valentines Day is the last thing on your mind. However, through the fatigue fog, poopy nappies and feed times Valentines Day is the perfect opportunity to take a moment to cherish each other and remember why you fell in love in the first place.

This year we're going with a self care, mood boosting and relationship building theme because everyone is coping with much higher levels of anxiety with world events and changing restrictions with the pandemic. Taking care of your mental health and incorporating self care rituals is a top priority.

“I like not only to be loved, but also to be told I am loved.” - George Eliot 

Best Valentines Day Gifts for a New Mum

• Chocolate - This is always at the top of my list! Make sure you get the right brand and type though - is she a dark chocolate lover, or more into chocolate covered acai berries?
• New PJs and Eye Mask - we love this gift idea! There is something indulgent about having a lovely nightie to slip into and lounge around it. Especially when you have small kids, you spend a lot more time in PJs, so it is special to have a nightie or PJs you love! 

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• Create a Spa at Home Care Box - Start with some indulgent bath soaks, add in a candle and a face mask or under eye hydrogels and you have the perfect evening in.

• Aromatherapy - We love using essential oils to refresh the home in a diffuser, or to use as a roll on for an instant mood boost any time of day. Some of our favourite essential oils for Valentines Day are 
  • Romance Blend - for Love, Positivity, Connectivity, Happiness
  • Women's Blend - for Support in Transitions, Balance and Emotional Stability
  • Pregnancy and Birth Blend - for Support in Bonding, Transition and Motherhood
  • Sanctuary Blend - Support for Comfort, Peace and Tranquility
  • Positivity Blend - Clarity, Certainty and Positive Outlook
  • Beautiful Roll On - for Healing, Confidence and Radiance
  • De Stress Roll on - Support for worries and anxiety

• Candles – Nothing says romance like a candle! Pair a beautiful scented candle with a romantic bath or massage to make the perfect Valentines Day for your partner. 
• Trees and Plants – For a relatively inexpensive yet beautiful gift you cannot go wrong with flowering plants or fruit trees. They are generally available locally so if you don’t remember to shop ahead this can be a great last minute gift idea that will last a lot longer than a bunch of flowers, and won't be sold out.
• Books and Journals – There is so much opportunity here. We especially love the 'Remember Mama' Book by Natalie from This Sweet Life of Mine. Whether it is a great book for her to curl up on the couch with (coupled with me time – see above), or a Journal of Love Poems that can romance the heart, books are a great option on a small budget. Check out these great ones:
• New Mum Gifts – And of course, Milk and Love stocks a wide range of gifts for new mums and Gifts for Pregnancy for a done for you service, including gift card, gift box and a thoughtful collection of bestselling products. 

"My Perfect Valentines Day Gift? A fruit tree. Hubby knows I don't like a bunch of flowers that are just going to die so he either chooses a fruit tree or a flowering plant." - Sarah from the Milk & Love Community

• Flowers! Flowers! Flowers! - Yes I know it's the Valentine's Day cliche but there is a reason for that. There aren't too many ladies out there who don't love a beautiful bunch of vibrant flowers to brighten up their day. If you happen to be in Brisbane, Francesca's Flowers have a stunning range and also deliver locally - Valentines day win!
• Massage or Beauty Therapy - From massages and facial treatments to manicures and pedicures, you cannot go wrong! There is something very special about spoiling your partner with some pampering and me time. Endota Spa has a fantastic range of products and experiences that help women reconnect with their “best me”. Check them out for a gift she will definitely appreciate!
• Jewellery - It is another cliché but for some, diamonds really are a girls’ best friend! Step outside of the norm and search for antique pieces or rare finds that could one day become a family heirloom. New mums will also love the beautiful keepsake DNA jewellery you can create through places like Beyond The Willow Tree. They make beautiful gifts formed from pieces of mum and bub that will be treasured forever.
• A Gift of Experience - For the adventurous partner, buy an experience from Red Balloon. There are so many to choose from, and there are even family friendly experiences so you can take the baby along too.
• Clothing & Accessories - You could also let your partner take the decision out of your hands and decide what she wants with a Milk and Love Gift Voucher. There are so many gorgeous clothes and accessories to choose from, and with a 2-year expiry date she can take her time deciding.

"I will never say no to a massage voucher. It's amazing how much an hour of 'me' time can make you feel" - Kate from the Milk & Love Community

"A day spa (massage/mani-pedi/facials) and a nice dinner out with my hubby and bub ...and maybe some diamond earrings!" - Cheryl from the Milk & Love Community

Free Gift Ideas for Valentines Day

These freebies are lovely to include in your Valentines day plans to really connect and show her you care.

• Self Care time – A little bit of self care time goes a long way! Being responsible for a little person 24 hours a day usually means not having much time to yourself. Spoil a new mum this Valentines day with some quality self care time. Some mums want (or need) to get out of the house on their own, and others just wish for some time to relax and read a book in peace at home. Find out what it is that will charge her batteries and give her a little time on her own. You’ll be amazed at how much this means.
• Breakfast in Bed – An oldie but a goodie! There is something special about waking up to a beautiful home cooked breakfast and fresh coffee served to you in your PJ’s. It really is that simple.
• A hand-written letter or card - In today’s digital world, we forget how thoughtful handwritten notes are. The time and effort it takes to write your thoughts, share a story or memory or even a poem of how special someone is to you has to be one of the most romantic gifts you can give. If you are going for those extra brownie points then step it up a notch with a handmade card that features a photo or drawing of a special memory.
• Back Massage from You - this is a great one for creating intimacy and reconnecting through the power of touch! Add a back massage to any day to make it extra relaxing and special. Ideally you can line up a relaxing bath afterwards for her to sink into... bliss!

• Create a book of vouchers – Every woman has different things they would love to receive on Valentines Day. Whether it is a foot rub, cooked meal, candlelit bath or a sunset walk on the beach. Give her a handmade book of vouchers that she can redeem whenever she wants to. It is a heart-felt gift that keeps on giving. 
• Tackle that Chore – Nothing says romance to a new mum like having that thing she's been wanting to get sorted out all done! Failing that, a sparkly clean house and clean washing never goes astray! Send her on a walk or a coffee date; and while she is out get scrubbing!
• Change the Sheets – With a baby in the house, washing the sheets is probably pretty low on the priority list. However, spoiling your partner by washing the sheets and making the bed is a great gift. There is nothing quite like sinking into a freshly washed and made bed at night. 

"My Perfect Valentines Day Gift? A sleep in and breakfast made at home or out. A voucher to get a pedicure would be amazing too!" - Krysie from the Milk & Love Community

About the Author

Corryn is a lover of coffee, hugs and sunshine. Mum of 3 and founder of Milk and Love, Corryn loves chatting to new mums and pregnant mums. She has extensive breastfeeding experience, and is an advocate for gentle parenting, cosleeping and looking after Mum's mental health...  read more about Corryn here